Breathing Lessons

Breathing LessonsDnf 24%I cannot get into this book I don t understand how this won a Pulitzer Breathing Lessons Is The Wonderfully Moving And Surprising Story Of Ira And Maggie Moran She S Impetuous, Harum Scarum, Easygoing He S Competent, Patient, Seemingly Infallible They Ve Been Married For Years Now, As They Drive From Their Home In Balti To The Funeral Of Maggie S Best Friend S Husband, Anne Tyler Shows Us All There Is To Know About A Marriage The Expectations, The Disappointments, The Way Children Can Create Storms In A Family, The Way A Wife And Husband Can Fall In Love All Over Again, The Way Nothing Really Changes Anne Tyler S Funny, Unpredictable And Endearing Characterizations Make Breathing Lessons Truly Entertaining We can essentially classify Pulitzer Prize for Fiction winners into three categories the epic Age of Innocence, Gone with the Wind, Grapes of Wrath, Confederacy of Dunces, Lonesome Dove, Amazing Adventures with Kavalier and Clay, Middlesex , the deeply personal Rabbit Is Rich, Rabbit at Rest, American Pastoral, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, Olive Kitteridge , and the personal epic Beloved, The Hours, Interpreter of Maladies, The Road, A Visit from the Goon Squad Breathing Lessons by Anne Tyler belongs totally to the second of these For a while, cohabitating a Norman Rockwellesque scene is amusing even, gasp, spiritual But after a while the normalness becomes, well, too ordinary This is better than Accidental Tourist anyhow, I bet that the Anne Tyler for my generation is Ann Patchett But this one is not as extraordinary as the title of Champion of Champions will imply. Only two stars for this tedious slice of life which by the way if this really is how life is lived you can shove it where the sun don t shine I think most of us would pay handsomely not to have to live these lives And one of my stars is just for the scene where the middle aged couple are doing the now compulsory in all movies singalong in the car and the song they sing is On the Road Again by Canned Heat that surprised me, one of my favourites Old pop music features quite strongly throughout, so of course I liked that but beware, there s an appearance of an excruciating number called Tonight You Belong to Me by two of Satan s minions called Patience and Prudence once heard, never, alas, forgotten, you can use bleach and industrial solvents but you will remember that terrible song on your deathbed that sudden gasp the terminal patient makes towards the end is when somewhere in their brain they are remembering Tonight You belong to me by Patience and Prudence anyway, where was I Oh yes, this is a novel about a really very irritating woman She s the mother and she sticks her beak into her son s lovelife to the extent of manipulating him into marrying one poor girl and when the thing ends in disaster she some years later tries desperately to manipulate them back together That s the top and bottom of it Maggie, this is the said mother, is a very real character so real I longed to unlatch the passenger car door so she could tragically topple out onto the highway during one of the several long car trips she takes But that was not to be The husband, this guy called Ira, sneers and berates her and passive aggressively exposes her half truths and outright lies to the assembled company to her everlasting mortification and when he has a spare moment whips out a pack of cards and plays patience imprudently, you might say Not one iota of affection can be discerned towards his wife during the whole book Well, maybe that s because she s so irritating, but I thought this is supposed to be a thoughtful sympathetic portrait of a marriage by Anne Tyler Instead it s a slog about a grumpy friendless guy who has a pushy meddling missus, we ve seen this kind of set up in many old sitcoms but those scripts usually have some jokes or a laugh track to indicate where the jokes should be Recommended for anyone visiting a dentist and wishing to pre numb themselves Minions of Satan This is the second novel by Anne Tyler that I read and I m happy to say I enjoyed it much than The Vinegar Girl.Some quick thoughts the main characters, Ira and Maggie Moran, were very relatable and recognisable Maggie is a busybody, helpful, chatty, well meaning, a bit scattered at times She s constantly fretting over her kids and the grandchild she doesn t get to see any She wants to help and fix people s relationships Ira is the level headed one, a bit taciturn, serious, almost permanently annoyed with his wife s chattering, interference, and small manipulations and he s not even aware of half of them That old adage familiarity breeds contempt is plenty apparent the Morans squabble and get annoyed with each other they misunderstand each other, jump to conclusions, see things differently the main themes of marriage, raising children, expectations dreams vs reality are very well done there s humour, there s mundanity, but most importantly, the characterizations are excellent as much as I like to think that I m unique and cool and all that I AM , in a way, we are all cliches and have stereotypical attitudes, behaviours, pre determined by our genetic makeup, gender and societal norms and roles. I bought this book in college, right after it won the Pulitzer in 1989 I started it and thought yeah, like I really want to read about an old married couple, fighting in their car I not only did NOT continue to read it, I sold it at a used book store But, there it was again last month, mine for a quarter at an estate sale I reminded myself that it HAD won a Pulitzer, and I was determined to read it this time.I still struggled with the first 25 pages And, even though I realized the old couple was no longer old in comparison no, now they re just in their 40s, like me , they were initially boring to me, all over again.I pushed on, and I m glad I did This novel is almost all dialogue, with a viable, well written story and ridiculously believable characters It s laugh out loud funny at times, and incredibly poignant at others I would recommend Breathing Lessons to just about any woman over 40, especially if she s married This book is an incredible and often hilarious testament to marriage. Breathing Lessons is about a couple, Maggie and Ira, who has been married for 28 years Their son, Jesse, a father of a toddler, is facing a divorce Their teenage daughter, Daisy is about to enter college so their house is now an empty nest.Life is a journey and, for a spouse like me, marriage is that part of the journey where you are somebody paddling the boat with you My daughter is also heading to college a couple of months from now Although she will be still be staying with us, I know that time will come that she has to be all by herself so she ll learn to stand on her own feet Seeing her all grown up receiving her high school diploma just the other day made me reflect how time really flew She used to be a 6 y o toddler tightly holding my hand on her first day at that school eleven years ago This morning, I looked at myself in the mirror and wondered where that young father has gone.You can say that this theme is nothing new However, Anne Tyler writes like no other She can make everything interesting to prod you to keep on turning the pages until you re done Why 1 The whole marriage of Maggie and Ira is encapsulated in one day From the time they leave Balti to the funeral of Serena s Maggie s best friend husband to their way back to home On the way back, they meet all sorts of people that can make you reflect on how your own marriage is currently going For me, this made me realize how communication is important I know how is this as a big factor in any relationship but it is not always about listening full ears or talking about how I feel to my wife but also when to keep quiet and ignore the unnecessary Come to think of it, there is really no sure fire hit about communication in a relationship, right It all boils down, I think, to how much understanding we are in tolerating each other s shortcomings 2 I ve read and liked her two other non Pulitzer winners prior to this book In fact, I read all these three books in succession I first started with The Accidental Tourist because it is both a 501 and a 1001 book Unbelievably brilliant Macon Leary stayed in my mind for few days and even up to now I still remember him in his cast Then I followed it right away with Dinner at the Homesick Restaurant because my Goodreads friend said that it is her favorite among Tyler s works That s true The blind Pearl Tull stayed as a prominent image in my brain for some days after It made me appreciate my mother that I called her up a day after I ve finished reading the book Both books engaged me from page 1 and made me continue reading the book almost without letup Breathing Lessons is structured differently The start is not engaging because it is just about a radio program announcing that Maggie s daughter in law Fiona is getting married again then Maggie hits a truck on her way out from the service shop But the climax builds gradually like that of the movie Thelma and Louise as in turns into something like a travelogue and like the Little Prince meeting all sorts of people on the road It is just different from the first two books and I admire Anne Tyler because she does not stick to one structure or one formula There are those recurring characters or events like the incorporation of songs or that minor character who sleep walk that reminded me of Ezra Tull in Dinner at the Homesick Restaurant. But aside from those, everything is new and if you cover Anne Tyler s name on front of the book, Breathing Lessons could have been written by any other brilliant female American author.So why Breathing Lessons There are instances when Tyler made references to breathing but no direct answer I think that it is for those who leave relationship for the reason that they could not breath. Ira Mason, the husband, feels that he should have married Anne Landers but he chose to marry and stick with Maggie For 28 years, he could have felt that it was a mistake but he stayed He thought, I know he must have thought, of leaving but he stayed Why Anne Tyler knows and they are the lessons that she will make you reflect on while reading this book. Did they really give her the Pulitzer for this thing How utterly appalling This may qualify as the stupidest book I have ever read I did not like even one of the characters Not one They were annoying and weak and petty I really wanted to hurl Maggie from the highest bridge just to get her to SHUT UP Dumb dumb dumb dumb story Shouldn t have bothered to finish it, but I did So fool me. Una divertida, conmovedora y, a veces, irritante historia sobre un matrimonio corriente en su vida corriente Una historia que va surgiendo de los recuerdos y vivencias que marido y mujer tienen, no siempre coincidentes, a lo largo de un largo d a uno de esos matrimonios que sobreviven con una inquebrantable mala salud de hierro gracias y a pesar de Ira y, sobre todo, de Maggie, personaje central y magistral de una novela que Anne Tyler escribi en estado de gracia y que mereci el premio Pulitzer de 1989Mirar un d a alrededor y que todo te sorprenda a d nde has llegado, con qui n te has casado, en qu clase de persona te has convertido Sup n que de repente te ves donde estabas sup n que comprando con tu hija pero teniendo siete u ocho a os y observando todo lo que has hecho Vaya , te dir s Ser posible que sa sea yo Conduciendo un coche Tomando el mando Rega ando a alguna jovencita como si yo lo supiera todo Entrar as en tu casa y dir as Bueno, pues no es que tenga un gusto espl ndido, que digamos Te mirar as en el espejo y dir as Dios m o, la barbilla se me empieza a curvar tal y como le pas a mi madreTodo es enga osamente peque o aqu , no hay grandes tragedias ni grandes problemas existenciales, ni grandes mentiras ni grandes traiciones, ni grandes h roes ni grandes m rtires, solo defectos y virtudes corrientes danzando de un lado para otro en coreograf as que todos conocemos y puestas en escena con una naturalidad exquisita, con un ritmo preciso, con un sentido del humor compasivo y con una finura y una lucidez para resaltar el detalle preciso realmente admirable Maggie, torpe, peliculera, imp dicamente comunicativa con los extra os, impulsiva, cabezona, propensa a los accidentes y a los malentendidos, est en pleno s ndrome del nido vac o y utilizar su patol gica inclinaci n a inmiscuirse en la vida de los dem s para solucionarlo Al rgica a toda situaci n que no encaje en sus fantas as sobre su vida y la de todos aquellos que la rodean no tiene escr pulo alguno en manipular a qui n haga falta en pos de sus objetivos ocultos, aunque siempre de buena fe y con resultados casi siempre desastrosos Una caracter stica de Maggie que le es especialmente irritante a su marido Ira que no puede impedir repentinos ataques de sinceridad que acaban por complicar a n m s las cosasNo crees que ahora ya deber a saber c mo respirarUna l gica pregunta de una embarazada en su preparaci n al parto Una pregunta que es el t tulo de la obra y cuya interpretaci n puede ir desde la referencia a todas aquellas cosas importantes para las que no nos preparan mientras nos saturan con un sinf n de conocimientos in tiles, hasta el hecho de que las cosas m s sencillas son las que siempre acabamos complicando cayendo en los mismos errores una y otra vez o lo f cil que es olvidar hasta lo m s simple cuando nos encontramos bajo presi n Es inevitable, como una maldici n, siempre nos ser n necesarios los ejercicios respiratorios. When reviewing books with others whether in text based or face to face discussions I am always irritated when readers don t like a book because they don t like certain characters in the book I want to remind them that a these people are, umm, fictional and b a diverse mix of characters drives a story, makes it interesting The truly gifted author fashions characters with weaknesses and flaws as well as strengths and charming bits the fun is in watching the interplay When a reader doesn t like a protagonist because she s too whiny, or can t find sympathetic traits or reasons why the bad guy acts as he does or worse, proposes changes for a character s personality to make the story better I tend to disregard the reader, as someone who wants to read the same story, with the same stock characters, over and over.And now I m going to be that person Although I love Anne Tyler s work thought Accidental Tourist was genius, and cried through Coming to America the main character in this book was like fingernails on chalkboard, as I was reading Tyler s lovely, lucid writing Maggie was the embodiment of all I dislike in women, real life or on the fictional page completely self deluded, sanctimonious, annoying, self involved, wheedling, deceptive all the while believing she was doing the right thing, talking sweetly The thing is, I know women like Maggie often women of an older generation, bewildered by the pace of societal change, fretful but unwilling to adapt, stuck in a set of values and loyalties that just don t work any Not bad people, but clueless.And Maggie was the heart of the story, on stage every page It was her meddling that drove all the action and flashbacks As much as I liked the idea of the story the single day, the connections between fatherless Serena and fatherless LeRoy, the aimless plotting it got to the point where I wanted Maggie to go away and not take up any of my time Tyler, as good as ever 5 stars The experience of reading it One star You do the math.

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