Fight Less, Love More

Fight Less, Love More Harvard Trained Lawyer And Family And Divorce Mediator Laurie Puhn Shows Busy Couples How To Stop Fighting And Start CommunicatingIt Happens Every Day A Simple Exchange Or Harmless Response Turns Into A Heated Debate Or Worse, An All Out Battle Hard Pressed For Quality Time With Our Partners And Spouses, It S Easy To Fall Into A Poor Communication Routine How Can Two People Who Love One Another So Much Have Such Difficulty Talking To One Another Drawing On Her Expertise In Legal Mediation And Conflict Resolution, Puhn S Fresh Approach Gives Simple,Minute Conversations That Will Instantly Improve Communication As Well As The Quality Of Relationships In Fight Less, Love More, Learn How To Identify And Conquer The Poor Verbal Habits, Instinctive Responses, And Emotional Reasoning That Can Cloud Judgment And Ultimately Lead To The Deterioration Of Otherwise Healthy RelationshipsLove Is Conditional, Argues Puhn, And For Love To Survive, Couples Don T Need To Talk They Need To Talk Better With Exercises, Examples, And Sample Scripts, Puhn S SimpleMinute Strategies Promise Immediate Results And Provide Long Lasting Communication Skills That Couples Can Confidently Employ When Faced With Future Conflict and she writes a relationship advice blog for parents at

[Reading] ➶ Fight Less, Love More  By Laurie Puhn –
  • Hardcover
  • 262 pages
  • Fight Less, Love More
  • Laurie Puhn
  • English
  • 20 March 2017
  • 9781605295985

10 thoughts on “Fight Less, Love More

  1. says:

    I LOVE this book Of course I do, I m the author I wrote it for people on the brink of break up and for those who simply want their pretty good relationship to get even better It s not a book of therapy, it s a book of answers From the mediation background, I strive to give people interesting examples and clever stories of how the wrong words lead to bad fights and breakdowns, while the right words lead to relationships based on mutual respect and appreciation For information, you can visit my website at If you liked this book, take a look at my first book Instant Persuasion How to Change Your Words to Change Your Life And by the way, isn t goodreads fantastic

  2. says:

    This gets 3.5 stars for the good information Too cheezy to make anything If you can get past the corny catch phrases specifically, the title of the book, which is repeated ad nauseam throughout , it actually has some great information Admittedly, most of the information is common sense, but it does seem like common sense often takes a back seat in relationships, so this offers some good reminders Overall, worth a read, as it is quick and easy to read and offers some helpful advice.

  3. says:

    Book Club read good, so farThis is a good book, even thinking of buying it It is really good for couples in crisis , but has great tips for every couple Like the short chapters, and difference scenarios.

  4. says:

    I listened to the book and took notes I actually think this has a lot of really good advice for marriages I have been reading several marriage related book in the last week and they all have very similar themes about what causes issues within relationships Violations of appreciation, respect, compassion, trust, and companionship are at the core of all disagreements some books list , but they really are just synonyms for these The 5 minute conversations, while nice in theory, I m not sure are achievable as 5 minute conversations especially in the heat of the moment BUT the various ideas within them can be applied and I do think they will help.

  5. says:

    Highlights 1 Five vital habits greetings hello and goodbye Good morning Good night I love you for fill in the blank A compliment.2 Wrong track five ways over criticize disguising personal preference Using criticism to humiliate your meet in front of others Using criticism to rub it in her face Criticizing something after the fact Correcting a person, not a mistake.3 Tame rudeness disgruntled couple streets Heather with poor manners Gradually the negative saloon longer larger and we can t help but zoom in on them We pay and attention to our unmet expectations until suddenly without warning we have entered a rough period of love under fire.4 Whatever argument when you use it in response to a question of choice, you automatically give up your right to complain about the outcome.5 Inspire appreciation cherish your meet by being his or her head cheerleader Period Many of us don t take this job seriously or relinquish it early on in the relationship by going on autopilot and taking things for granted Denial of appreciation is not simply a bad habit of neglect that innocently grew over time, but rather an attempt to punish want to meet for not me not doing what is wanted or expected 6 Orchestrate a perfect apology make music for your ears The beginning turn a molehill into a mountain Don t make diminishing comments Middle dig deep And that your real wrong No buts The end repair and prevents Repair damage It prevents a rerun.7 Negotiate for love nothing is ever 50 50 avoid winning at all costs Tell it like it is preferences and what you re willing to give up Get rid of the judge and jury Keep your mouth shut, don t make comparisons, know alternatives 8 When your mate is criticized in public, it is a character revealing moment for you You defend in public, even if you disagree and private The clearly you can define what it means to be loyal to each other, the stronger you ll be as a couple and the secure you will feel in your love.9 Be lovable if you want to be loved, you must be lovable Even if your spouse shoots fight lines in your direction, that doesn t give you permission to fire back The pain your meet is experiencing from a bad sunburn is explicitly his or her pain At times like this, all you can do is offer your support and show your kindness by trying to help alleviate pain.10 Listen without criticizing.

  6. says:

    I won this book on Goodreads Giveaways Thanks, Rodale and Goodreads I was interested in this book because, while my spouse and I have a very good relationship, one can always improve When we do argue, I see us both falling into habitual patterns but am powerless, in the emotion of the moment, to change.The book is broken into logical sections, and the flow is organized in small bites so as to be readable and not intimidating Each section is rich with examples, and many are from the author s own life, which reminds us that no one is immune to communication breakdowns while also establishing the author as an equal, someone whom we can trust, not some lofty degreed authority raining down advice.Descriptions and exercises help us to determine what characteristics in ourselves, as well as in our partners, contribute to communication issues.The solutions are sized to be easy to work with, too 5 Minute Conversations Who can t spare five minutes to address an issue as important as one s relationship

  7. says:

    I won this book on Goodreads First Reads Although I have read several self help books, they are not my usual favorite genre Fight Less, Love More was a great read Chapter 3 was my favorite, where Puhn spells out specific things to say to set the proper tone for any relationship Couples wanting to improve their relationship will get a lot of mileage out of this book.Puhn is a Harvard educated family and divorce lawyer mediator She gives readers common sense tools to use to make good relationships great, or to mend struggling ones You can buy and read this book at 24.99 for a hardcover, and be on your way, or you can pay a counselor 3 times that much each session The math is easy.If you re a Broncos fan you ll get this Laurie Puhn is to Dr, Laura, what Kyle Orton is to Jake Plumber.

  8. says:

    Nothing earth shattering, but advice on how to communicate with your spouse better Let s face it, fights usually are due to a lack of communication or to miscommunication The author talks about ways to have better communication to express your needs without coming off as needy or bossy The basic message I got out of this book for my marriage is to show appreciation to my husband Some kindly placed thank you s, a kiss at bedtime, and greeting your spouse when they return home are ways to make you feel connected to each other Sure, there are other things to work on, but these were the easy things for me to implement and they helped me immediately.

  9. says:

    It s interesting to read about counselling couples from a lawyer s perspective What I liked are the different topics she covered, like how to deal with family, how to apologize well, etc My main problem with books of this genre is all the listing of things 5 ideas to help you stop interrupting, 3 ways to show your spouse affection, 2 times NOT to use these techniques It s gimmicky and frustrating to read So, 5 minute conversations made sense at times in this book, but other things seemed to be put into that mould when they didn t belong Still, useful ideas, helpful illustrations, and practical techniques galore were in this book.

  10. says:

    This book is for everyone For people who fight in any type of relationship, people who don t understand their own or other people s reactions, and those who just want to understand psychology better You can t not learn something from this book Not only does it give you descriptions of each type of possible problem, but it provides clear examples that everyone has experienced or witnessed The author then gives exact instructions as to how to deal with the problem with your partner the other person and how to prevent it from happening again in the future, no matter if i ts you or the other person who is causing the issue This book is invaluable I highly recommend it.

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